Dominant Maintenance
We see a lot of information about caring for s-types. About maintenance spankings, about making them feel wanted, needed, and loved. But what about us D-types? We’re supposed to be the strong ones, the ones that keep it together, that have to be the rock in the relationship. That’s our responsibility, right? Of course it is, but even the largest of rocks are vulnerable to the erosions of time.
In real life power exchange relationships, with family, vanilla friends, coworkers and children around you every day, you typically have to cloak your protocols at some level or the other. After time, that cloaking starts to become the norm, and at least for me, I need a break from it. I need some time with just myself and my slave, in private, to remove the cloak. I need her naked at my feet, looking up at me with those eyes that tell me every ounce of her belongs to me. All the cloaks and hiding gone. To be able to make her crawl to me, beg me to use her, take my time, exercise my patience, and re-energize our dynamic. I need to be able to take her to dinner and order her food. Let her feel kept, and remind myself that I’m the one keeping her.
I don’t use such terms very often, as I’m not a spiritual man, but I’m blessed with a wonderful slave, who believes in me more than any other person I’ve ever known. I know that she belongs to me, that I own her heart and soul. Of that I need no reassurance. We do our best to practice our dynamic on a day to day basis. But sometimes I just need that little extra that comes from having time alone. I call that time dominant maintenance.